Updates on all things

I got a message from the friend who initially called me about the mother wanting us to adopt her baby... She said that the mother had a miscarriage so that is no longer in our future. I am sorry for her that she lost her baby like that. I was not holding it too tightly so it is not devastating to us. It is sad but not anything we aren't used to. I have learned that nothing is a guarantee so take nothing for what it says but for what it is. If it is here and now then spend it (love, life, energy, etc...) here and now. Tomorrow is not a guarantee! It takes a lot to get me pumped enough to believe it is going to be good. I am not trying to be a downer believe me... it is just that we see many pitfalls in our "joyous journeys" that everything is taken lightly and from a very cautious heart.

I finished reading Bear's case plan and have to say I am even more worried now than I was in the beginning. I can't wait for this to all be over with. It is way overwhelming and stressful. I am hoping and praying that nobody comes out of left field and takes him away from us. By the words I read on some certain papers, I have my doubts now. Very scary. Especially seeing that this is our first adoption, I have no idea what could happen or how everything does happen. But again nothing is a guarantee so he is not really ours until the judge deems it so. That has not happened yet so I feel that someone else could take him if they wanted to and have stronger ties.

I am reading "The New Strong Willed Child" by Dr. James Dobson. It is really good so far. I am beginning to think that Bear is not strong willed after all. I think he is pretty compliant and Moe is the shy one. They have their little moments of tantrums and bickering but nothing of what I am reading about these strong willed children. Bear is very good when not teething. and Moe just loves to be Moe, he also wants to eat everything IMMEDIATELY! He can get testy but when I read the definitions of the Strong-willed, compliant, and shy... my boys deifinitily fit the compliant and shy ones more than the strong-willed one. I am still going to read it because after reading that case plan it makes me know better what his genes are partially made up of and that plays a big factor in your (their) children's behaviors. From the information I've read there was a lot of DETERMINATION AND STRONG WILL going on and not for anything good. I think we can channel Bear's into something good so that will be good when used for good things. But it is going to be a long haul, given that we are able to adopt him still.

I am believing God can do this for us! I also believe HE WILL! Please pray with us and for this situation if you feel led! Thanks friends!